This episode we re-visit the Tour Life Tour Wife, one of our first episodes about life being married with someone who tours. It's been a long time since then and a lot of growth has happened since then. Plus Tion Bukue embarked on a nationwide tour that got cancelled after a few weeks, then ( thanks to Yulia) decided to go back on the road and travel/tour all the same.
mmhmm interesting reasons why!
This episode to talk about going into both Monogamous style relationships and non monogamous style relationships EYES WIDE.
Being more aware of the challenges, and pitfalls involved with each style of loving and relating.
It's kind of like, before you book a trip to a foreign country you've never been to, it is wise to research people who have been. Lear the where to go's, where to avoid, and the challenges that may arise. As opposed to going into it blind and being shocked and surprised by something that is a common challenge and should've been expected!
Yes we go deep in to both, non judgementally, just raw, honest, goofy talk!
Ey YO! we are back at it. This episode we go in to the deep dive of what we mean we we say we are "Open" It is not about having sex with other people. It is freedom to be honest, truthful and create spaces and experiences in your life. Change, grow and expand if you like. Sometimes it includes other people, places and things but the root is within! Many other topics too
This episode we update the listeners on what's been going on in our lives since the last we spoke! Delving in to topics of how our relationship with our parents can color the relationship within ourselves between our inner child and inner parent. Fascinating stuff!
Along with Discipline vs. suppression, allowing self honesty and beyond!
Soak it up!
This Episode we go into how trauma and fear disguises it's self in rules and regulations in open relationships, ( in particular but all for sure) and what happens when they go unchecked. We also tie in how we communicate with our kids. How we expect them to communicate and be truthful yet we often times don't offer the same level of honesty. Most of the times due to our own learned habits due to childhood traumas and such. The loops will continue through generations unless we overstand them!
This episode we go all in to the Love languages. The many ways we communicate love and how we can misinterpret each other's acts of love.
Everyone one of us have our own unique, often changing definitions of our words and actions.
It goes deep! Plus Yoda shares updates on her growth and inner ponderings. The Origin story is in the works!
This episode.. Maan.. we tried recording it a different way and it took us almost a week to get this podcast up!!
In this episode we go in to Open vs Close states of being I.e. when we operate out of fear vs love. how it effects our perception and reactions.
Yulia comes back in the second half and leads the discussion on legacy gender roles and how they effect our styles of relationships and our ability to support and truly have love based motives with each other! Shit ain't easy!
This episode we talk about how sometimes when we tell our story it turns out to be more of an editorial then a bias account of the story. This can paint people as villains and heros where in reality the heros and villains are more actions and energies. Which all of us have inside of us
( bravery, fear, deciet, anger, trauma) which causes us to act more like a villain at times and heros another. If we aren't careful we start shaping our narratives to paint us in the positive light and others as villains.
We also add new colors to Yulia's narrative and updates on the 10 year affair, frienship relationship kurfuffle that sent us into a tailspin over 3 years ago!
YO! This is a review of Jada smith's "Red table talks" Pt1 and 2 of "Becoming Mr. and Mrs Smith. It was really cool to see them talk so candidly about their marriage and the shit they had to go through and levels of honesty they had to have with each other to keep their love and companionship alive. Linked here
This episode we go add a little color to what feelings, like Jealousy, insecurity, and deciet feel like. Meaning physically feel like. What to do when that neck gets hot or that jittery feeling hits the tummy!? We also recap Bukue's last solo tour and being someone's first connection other than her husband after 30 years!!!!!